Actor Reactor

Years ago I read an article in Reader’s Digest which made a mark on me.

The author recounted how one day he saw a man buying newspapers from a vendor who seemed perennially in a foul mood. The man greeted the vendor, “Good morning!” but all he got in response was a gruff, “Humph.” In the next few days the author saw the same thing happen repeatedly. So one day he went up to the man and asked, “How come you continue to greet that vendor cheerfully when he always treats you terribly?” The man answered, “Why should I let him ruin my day? Why let him determine my mood?”

There are two kinds of people: actors and reactors. Actors take an active part on how they live their life; reactors are a more passive lot, trapped by what life throws at them. Actors determine for themselves how they will act and decide. Reactors depend on others to determine how they will act, decide… even feel. True, emotions aren’t something that we have total control over—if you are hurt, then you just are. But what you do about it is what determines your character.

It’s sad to hear of people who insist on harboring ill feelings towards others when they hold in their hands the key to a more positive outlook in life.

Take responsibility for your actions. Live the life you choose. Act!

Now, any reactions to what I just said?